![](\"https:\/\/habemusasado.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/ChatGPT-Image-8-feb-2026-05_16_19-1024x683.png\")
<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Peace to you. There are topics that many avoid out of fear, superstition or pain. But when it comes to saying goodbye to a loved one, knowing what to do\u2014and what not to do\u2014can prevent mistakes that later leave guilt, confusion, and anguish<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For years, many priests have seen the same scene repeated: relatives who, with genuine love, place objects inside the coffin believing that they “help” the deceased. However, in the Christian tradition, the farewell is not based on assuring the person of “things”,<\/strong> but on helping the soul to detach itself from the material<\/strong> and be accompanied by prayer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because the problem is not the object itself… but the message<\/strong> that object conveys: And that message, even if it is born of affection, can become a bondage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A woman arrived at the temple crying, some time after she had buried her mother. She said that her mother appeared to her in her dreams restlessly<\/strong>, pointing to her neck and chest, as if something weighed her down or suffocated her. The daughter didn’t understand what it meant… until he remembered what he had done on the day of the funeral.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Out of love, he placed a large gold necklace<\/strong> on his mother that she adored. And also, a wad of money<\/strong>, thinking: “so that he doesn’t lack anything there… in case he has to pay something.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n The intention was “good”. But the gesture revealed a dangerous belief: that salvation works like the world here, with payments, objects and guarantees<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There’s the point: It is one of the most widespread superstitions. In some ancient cultures it was believed that the dead had to “pay” for a passage or a journey. In addition, money symbolizes attachment to the earthly. Placing it is like saying to the soul: Many want the loved one to “look good” or leave with what they loved. But for the soul gold is useless<\/strong>, and for the living it can be transformed into a false idea: that the value of the farewell is in the objects.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is an even more delicate point: if the person had a strong attachment to his belongings, reminding him at the last moment can become a last emotional chain<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Keys, glasses, diaries, letters, saved photos, watches, cell phones… even today some place phones or tablets<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Every object says something. For example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Christian farewell seeks the opposite: to give, to let go, to trust<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It is another gesture born of ancient beliefs: that “over there” one is hungry or thirsty as here. The most serious thing is when alcohol is placed on someone who struggled with that addiction. It’s like leaving you a reminder of your wound at a time when you most need deliverance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is very important. Photos of children, grandchildren, partner or living relatives should not be posted<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Beyond what is said in the popular, the main problem is spiritual: the photo is used as an “emotional amulet”, as a “magical” gesture to provoke something (“to protect him”, “not to forget me”, “to take care of me”). Playing cards, cigarettes, drinks, “lucky charm”, things associated with destructive habits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This does not “accompany”. Remember<\/strong>. It’s one thing to have a small devotional book<\/strong> or a blessed memorial<\/strong> of the rite, but it’s quite another to bury valuable or ancient family icons. Pocket knives, scissors, needles, tools of the trade (hammer, scalpel, instruments). Many people write goodbyes, apologies, or final messages and place them inside. It’s understandable… But true communication is not with paper<\/strong>, but with prayer, memory and acts of love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you were left with words pending, you can say them in a low voice in front of the coffin or in the cemetery, and transform them into prayer: that makes more spiritual sense than burying a message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Talisman, runes, zodiac signs, “protections”, red thread, “charged” objects, amulets bought from supposed “healers”. In a sober Christian farewell, the essential thing is:<\/p>\n\n\n\n And for the living, the most important thing happens outside the coffin:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Almost always for three reasons:<\/p>\n\n\n\n And this is what should be ordered calmly: faith does not work by objects<\/strong>, but by love, prayer and truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To say goodbye to a loved one is not to “equip” him for another world, but to accompany him with faith<\/strong> and let him go without ties. What sustains the soul are not objects: it is prayer, love, mercy, and hope. And what heals the living is not clinging to things, but learning to let go in peace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Peace to you. There are topics that many avoid out of fear, superstition or pain. But when it comes to saying goodbye to a loved one, knowing what to do\u2014and what not to do\u2014can prevent mistakes that later leave guilt, confusion, and anguish. For years, many priests have seen the same scene repeated: relatives who, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":29704,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-29703","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-advices"],"aioseo_notices":[],"yoast_head":"\n
“These things still belong to you. You still need this. Don’t leave completely.”<\/p>\n\n\n\nA story that changed everything<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
when we fire someone, we don’t help them “take things”… we help him release them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nWhat NOT to put in the casket (and why)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1) Money (coins, banknotes, large sums)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
But the Christian faith does not teach that: no one buys the rest of the soul<\/strong>, and even less “with cash”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“Remember the material”,<\/strong> when it precisely needs to be free from that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n2) Jewelry, rings, chains, and valuables<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3) Personal objects that represent attachments<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\n
4) Food and drink (bread, sweets, alcohol)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
But the soul does not feed on food. It is sustained, in faith, by prayer<\/strong>, by God’s mercy and love expressed in good works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n5) Photos of living people<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
And faith is not based on magic or symbolic shortcuts, but on prayer and trust<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n6) Objects linked to vices or sins<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
And if the person carried those struggles, the last thing that is needed is to wear symbols of that as if they were part of their eternal identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n7) Sacred household icons or images (especially antique)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Sacred images are there to sustain the living in prayer. Burying them is often a mistake: the home is deprived of a spiritual good and the image is exposed to degradation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n8) Sharp objects or tools<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes it is done for “protection” or for identity (“he was a carpenter, let him carry his tool”). But the soul is not defended with metal: it is accompanied by prayer<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n9) Letters and notes “for you to read”<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
10) Esoteric or occult objects<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
This is incompatible with the Christian faith and can bring spiritual confusion. Farewell does not need “magical defenses”: it needs faith, respect and prayer<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\nSo… What should accompany the person?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\n
\n
Why these mistakes are made<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\n
Tips and recommendations<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\n
\ud83d\udc49 Follow our page, like \ud83d\udc4d, and share this post. Every click can make a difference\u2014perhaps saving your own life or that of a loved one.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"