Spiritual reflections on the wake and peace of the soul according to Allan Kardec.

When a person dies, everything seems to stop. The air becomes heavy, time fades and pain dominates every corner. Family, friends and memories are intertwined in a scenario full of intense emotions. However, according to the teachings of Allan Kardec, that very human moment is also one of the most delicate for the spirit that has just departed.

What many ignore is that the wake is not just a social ceremony. It is a point of transition between two planes of existence. And there, unintentionally, the living can create a real emotional prison for the soul that tries to detach itself from the physical world.

The spirit does not disappear at death

Kardec explained that the spirit is not immediately disconnected from the body. For a while, he still perceives, feels, and observes what is happening around him. Listen to voices, capture emotions, and react to ambient vibrations.

When the environment is loaded with despair, screaming, guilt, or extreme attachment, the spirit goes into confusion. You may not understand that you have already died. You may feel that you still have obligations, that you must comfort, that you must stay. And that prevents him from continuing on his way.

What for the living is an emotional outlet, for the spirit can become an invisible chain.

The pain that traps

Crying is natural. Suffering a loss hurts. But there is a profound difference between healthy pain and attachment that does not want to let go.

When someone says “don’t leave me”, “come back”, “I can’t live without you”, that message is not lost in the air. The spirit perceives it. And in his state of vulnerability, he can try to respond, to remain, to get closer… prolonging their own suffering.

Allan Kardec affirmed that true love liberates. Attachment, on the other hand, retains.

The wake as a spiritual space

In the first moments after death, the spirit needs clarity, calm, and emotional light. A serene environment, with respect, lofty thoughts, and quiet prayers, acts as a bridge that helps you understand your new condition.

On the contrary, a wake full of family conflicts, reproaches, shouts or theatricality creates a dense atmosphere that disorients the soul.

It’s not about pretending there’s no pain. It’s about not turning that pain into a barrier.

The trap of “selfish love”

Kardec spoke clearly of something uncomfortable: many times extreme suffering is not only love, but fear of being alone. When a person refuses to accept the other’s departure, he unconsciously puts his need above peace of mind.

That’s not love. It is emotional dependence.

True love wants the other to be at peace, even if it hurts.

The moment of burial

The final separation from the body is one of the most sensitive moments for the spirit. If that moment is surrounded by despair, the soul can resist, cling to the body or the place.

On the other hand, if you are surrounded by serenity, gratitude, and thoughts of light, detachment occurs more smoothly.

Every word, every gesture, every silence has a real impact.

Objects Matter Too

Kardec taught that, for a time, the spirit remains magnetically linked to its belongings. Moving, handing out, or discarding them abruptly can create a sense of violent rupture.

That is why it is advisable to wait, act with respect and, if possible, accompany that process with thoughts of gratitude.

The Power of Thought

Even if no one speaks, the spirit perceives what it feels. Guilt, anger, reproach, and inner conflict also create bonds that make liberation difficult.

For this reason, respectful silence is often more loving than a thousand words.

When the wake becomes a prison

Many spirits, according to accounts analyzed by Kardec, remained for days, weeks or even years near their homes or graves because they were retained by the attachment of the living.

They were not doomed. They were emotionally strapped in.

And all of that could have been avoided with understanding and awareness.

Tips and recommendations

• Maintain an atmosphere of calm, respect, and serenity during the wake.
• It allows crying, but avoids screaming, reproaches or scenes of despair.
• Instead of saying “don’t go,” express thoughts like “you can go on in peace.”
• Avoid family conflicts at that time.
• Do not touch or distribute belongings of the deceased immediately.
• Direct your thoughts toward gratitude and love, not guilt or fear.
• Understand that the spirit needs clarity, not emotional chains.

Death is not the end, but a transition. The wake is the first bridge between two worlds. When we fill it with serenity, respect, and conscious love, we help the soul to depart in peace. And in doing so, we also heal our own pain.

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